“a more perfect union”

“This morning, the Supreme Court recognized that the Constitution guarantees marriage equality. In doing so, they’ve reaffirmed that all Americans are entitled to the equal protection of the law, that all people should be treated equally – regardless of who they are or who they love.” President Barack Obama, summing up the bottom line for all

We bought this umbrella in case it rained on our wedding day, but using it today was satisfying!

We bought this umbrella in case it rained on our wedding day, but using it today was satisfying!

Someday, students will read about June 26, 2015.  They’ll talk about the fights of their forefathers for this day.  Teachers will teach these things as a matter of fact, movies will be watched, and kids will share stories about how different their lives would be if June 26, 2015 hadn’t happened.

I know this because I grew up in the 1990’s and that’s how we talked about the Civil Rights movement.

My future children will watch documentaries about love prevailing in a fight against hate.  LGBTQ role models won’t be suppressed.  Their friends will share stories about their families’ gay members.  And when they go back to school after a long summer vacation, the weddings that blabber about won’t be only about a beautiful bride and a handsome groom, but two glowing brides and two ecstatic grooms!
It won’t happen overnight and it won’t be universal, but it doesn’t have to be.

So long as the story is told, future generations will form their own opinions – regardless of those held by the role models in their lives.  Oftentimes, we hear that people are brought up to keep their parents’ belief systems, to hold tight to the same prejudices – begrudgingly marching through a time that never stops.  But we also acknowledge the human propensity to rebel, to grow, change, and nurture within ourselves a desire to evolve from what we’ve been taught to what we know is right.

That’s what June 26, 2015 is about.

It’s the same thing that July 2, 1964, January 22, 1973, and countless other monumental dates in our nation’s history are about:  It’s about upholding what is right in our Constitution’s eyes.  It’s about moving forward.  It’s about letting go of a black and white lens and looking at the gray areas – for there lies the truth.

11665561_10153195122361749_4550774236824323864_nI know that many of my friends and family disagree with me, the Surpreme Court, and the LGBTQ community about this.  I even understand the underpinnings of why, but that’s not the issue.  We handed marriage to the government long ago.  No one is forcing you to marry anyone you don’t want to marry; we are recognizing that particular freedom for everyone.

What is being said is similar to what your parents taught you, “Mind your own business,” and what Jesus said in Matthew 7:3, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” and what numerous cultures around the world have taught us all – to do unto others as we would have done to us.

“This ruling is a victory for America.  This decision affirms what millions of Americans already belief in their hearts: when all Americans are treated as equal, we are all more free.” – President Obama

Would you want your love to be denied, discredited, and devalued?  Would you want to be afraid of traveling to your parents’ home with your spouse because if – God-forbid – you got into a car accident, you might not have the right to be their “next of kin?”  Would you want your life to be called into question constantly?

"Together, we're unlimited. #LGBTPrideMonth #LoveWins"

“Together, we’re unlimited.
#LGBTPrideMonth #LoveWins”

Any reasonable person – or anyone who has ever experienced the irrational bond of being in love in love – would answer “No,” to all of the above.

Today, though, we’re not talking about history.  We’re talking about legitimizing the right to love whoever we want, wherever we want, throughout the country.  We’re talking about committing one life to another – regardless of sexual and gender identity.  We’re talking about working hard at marriage.  We are talking about victory.

Today is a day of celebration, of unbridled joy, of excitement, and, for those with a cynical outlook on life – of nerves.  Today, in many ways, feels like the wedding day for which the LGBTQ and allied community has been praying, planning, and hoping.  There have been praises sung, speeches made, joyous Facebook statuses posted, profile pictures updated to share the news and the jubilation.  Colors have been picked  All of the colors of the rainbow are being used to foster the atmosphere of joy, love, and happiness that has come to us today.  It’s a wonderful day!

“Today, we’ve made our union a little more perfect.” – President Obama

But after the wedding comes the real work:  The petty jealousies, the arguments about who’s right, the suspicions of broken confidence, and all manner of other problems.  People are already speaking of the issues that will arise tomorrow.  We’ve gotten this more perfect union, now we need to ensure our domestic tranquility.

“Those who have come so far on their journey to equality have a responsibility to reach back and help others join them.  Because, for all our differences, we are one people – stronger together than we could ever be alone.  That’s always been our story.” – President Obama

To those who are upset about all of this, here’s my bold statement:  Those of us celebrating this wedding will be delaying our honeymoon and encountering struggles with you for the rest of our marriage.  If you don’t like our wedding, get out of our reception.

Because we’re having a grand old time celebrating my love, your love, their love, and telling your intolerance, short-sightedness, and opposition to shove it where the sun won’t shine.

How incredible is this?!

How incredible is this?!

“America should be very proud.” – President Obama

I know I am.



One thought on ““a more perfect union”

  1. Yay! Glad to see a new post. I’m so happy for all those who can now LEGALLY commit their lives to each other. This quote expresses what has always been the real point of this issue for me: ” Would you want your love to be denied, discredited, and devalued? Would you want to be afraid of traveling to your parents’ home with your spouse because if – God-forbid – you got into a car accident, you might not have the right to be their “next of kin?” I have friends who are gay who have made better and longer lasting commitments than I have ever managed; why should my more tenuous relationships matter more than theirs? Love, caring, commitment, and responsibility are not based on sexual orientation any more that they are based on gender. ALL that this decision does is make life better for more people, it takes NOTHING from anyone else. If religious beliefs lead you to feel differently this does not affect you in any way; you are not being told that YOU have to recognize it, only that the government does.


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